LIFESTAGE COACHING
LifeStage Coaching guides clients stuck in midlife to:
If any of this resonates with, I get it. Because I'm there right now. Part Works can help you out of this "Messy Middle" and envision a purposeful, soul-filled second half of life. That' why I became a LifeStage Coach.
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Reset expectations about what’s possible in the present moment of uncertainty -- the Messy Middle;
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Envision a larger, better future 2H than they ever would have imagined;
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Build an Action Plan and Playbook with specific steps to bridge the gap to a purpose-driven and meaningful 2H.
The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy Ego; the second half requires us to let go of it.
— Carl Jung
“Unlocking The Second Half of Life"
How Parts Work Helps Us Envision and Build A Larger Life
“Nothing in your life’s journey is going to be as difficult as moving through the Messy Middle (MM) into the second half of it (2H).”
The common fantasy of our culture is that we can avoid, or solve, the visit into the dark wood, the swamplands. That we can live in 2H clutter-free. Guess again. Those who promise this are charlatans. Under the stress of swamplands, we are most likely to regress further by continuing to employ … everything … that got us there in the first place.
Arriving in swampland of midlife means we are faced with a task. That task demands of us something larger … how do I embrace life amid the peril of staring at the end of it; how do I find meaning in this suffering? It requires us to enlarge our vision of ourselves and what life means to us. The way forward is to recognize the energy of the Soul and to commit to enlarging it. In the face of these larger questions, we are (forced) to, finally, grow up. Growing up and into soul leads to the larger life our Soul has been seeking for us.
— James Hollis
The questions life asks of us in Messy Middle (MM) are orders of magnitude larger that those posed in the first half (1H):
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Having achieved so much already in life, what is my purpose?
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What do I want out of life beyond achievements?
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What do I truly value?
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As my family, circle of friends, and body are changing right before my eyes, what makes me happy?
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Where is the vitality of youth I’ve always felt gone to?
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Why is it so hard for me to spend time alone? Why does that even matter?
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People are leaving my life, some are dying — how do I deal with this?
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In what ways do I find worthiness to others and my own self-worth?
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Who am I; Who do I want to be?
Training & Certifications
Here's how the LifeStage Coaching Program unfolds:
DAYS 1-45
Discover Why You're Stuck
Current State Assessment
-- Map where you are today in the MM
-- Identify Parts that drove 1H
-- Understand what's working / what's not working Ideal
Future State Visioning
-- DREAM: Design the life you want to lead in 2H
-- Clarify "Meaning", "Purpose", in the context of the 6P's: Personal; Physical; Psychological; Passing + Parting; Professional; Purpose
Parts Work I
-- Introduction to Parts Work
-- Identify Parts in relation to the 6P's + showing up in the MM Education + Learning
-- The "Why" of the MM >> 2H LifeStage Coaching / Counseling Process
-- Roles of Ego, Individuation, and Soul
Design Alliance
-- Intentions, goals, and outcomes (in addition to getting unstuck from the MM)
-- The kind of engagement is the best fit for you (Coach; Mentor; Counselor)
-- How we work together -- roles + responsibilities for Client, Coach, other resources
1. A comprehensive understanding of where you are today in the Messy Middle
2. Foundational understanding of your inner world and how it drives behaviors
3. A guide who fits into your life in ways others don't
OUTCOMES
DAYS 30-90
Transition Out of the Messy Middle
Messy Middle >> 2H Roadmap
-- Turning Vision Into Reality: Step-by-Step Action Plan
-- Tuned / aligned to 6P's
PARTS WORK II
-- Deep-dive into Self
-- Parts + Self: Which Parts serve best for 2H (across 6P's)
Capabilities Toolkit
-- Critical Resources + Skills (to enhance and accelerate Parts Work + Roadmap)
Education + Learning
-- Foundations of 2H: Meaning, Purpose, and Wisdom
-- Homework TBD
1. Playbook for moving out of Messy Middle into the Second Half
2. Personal tools and skills specific to the needs of moving into the Second Half
3. External resources you'll need to rely on as you move out of Messy Middle
OUTCOMES
DAYS 45 AND ON
Live into the Second Half
Tracking Progress
-- Alignment to what's working / not working
-- Modify program as-needed: add, remove, change Roadmap actions and/or objectives
Parts Work III
-- Unburdening Parts
-- Becoming Self-led
-- Liberating Soul
Education + Learning
-- Homework TBD
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Co-Active Fundamentals
We all have many parts to our personalities and bodies. Understanding roles parts play, the burdens they carry, and the "exiled" parts of us that have been seriously wounded is the way to heal our inner world. No framework has helped me more; IFS can help you too.
> IFS Level I (Pending)
> Internal Family Systems -- Online Circle; Continuity Programs
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Parts
Work
We all have many parts to our personalities and bodies. Understanding roles parts play, the burdens they carry, and the "exiled" parts of us that have been seriously wounded is the way to heal our inner world. No framework has helped me more; Parts Work can help you too.
> IFS Level I (Pending)
> Internal Family Systems -- Online Circle; Continuity Programs